Where are Your Accusers?

I have to admit: I like ice cream.  I like ice cream a lot actually.  In truth, as of late I’ve been preferring vanilla frozen yogurt with fresh raspberries, but that’s beside the point.

My oldest son loves ice cream too.  In fact, he may love it more than I do.  When I buy ice cream, I typically buy my boys something else because, frankly, though my oldest would eat the vanilla, he would smother it in peanut butter, chocolate syrup and anything else that he would deem “necessary” to jazz up the vanilla.

Not long ago, I had bought myself fresh raspberries and frozen yogurt.  I tried to control myself by saving my treat for an “I really need a treat” kind of day.  Finally, when that day came, I excitedly went to the freezer only to find my frozen yogurt was gone.  The container was found, lying empty in my son’s trash can.

BUMMER, right?

I was upset, but I knew my son didn’t intentionally eat the yogurt to upset me.  He didn’t go to the freezer and think, “Oh, wow, I really wanna upset mom so I’m gonna eat her yogurt!”

He had no malice in his heart whatsoever.  He just wanted to eat ice cream.

I realize that is a very simple story, but have you ever noticed that at the core of most ‘quarrels’ is one person judging another to have malice in their heart?

Perhaps it is human nature, but I’m of the belief that the type of Love that Jesus taught was love without conditions.  Love that holds others harmless.

Remember the story in the book of John, Chapter 8 where the teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought the adulterous woman before Jesus, demanding that she be stoned to death, according to the Law of Moses?

What did Jesus say?

“Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.”

One by one, the woman’s “accusers” left.  Jesus then spoke to the woman and said, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”  “No one, sir,” she said.

“Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”

What would happen if, the next time you felt hurt by someone you felt certain loved you, you chose to look at them as Jesus would look at them: Without malice in their heart.

What would happen if you dismissed your own ego that demands ‘justice’ when it feels it has been wronged, and instead looked at the other person with love, compassion and grace and said to yourself, “I know they love me and meant no harm.”

What would happen if instead of anger, spite and revenge we chose forgiveness just as immediately as we felt our pride get hurt?

What would happen?


That’s what would happen.

8 Responses


It’s very nice here. I like it. Great lesson. I want more! ;-)


The opportunity to “forgive instantly” without a second thought presents itself everyday. At least it does for me. Doing that, instead of letting any thought contrary to Love enter in is the right thing to do. It’s certainly not an easy task all of the time, but does reap big rewards. Peace indeed does happen (within). Very cool thoughts! Thank You!


thank you!! i’m glad that you’re here! (:


thank you!! i always appreciate how you take the blog to a deeper level. <3 ((love you))


Great blog, Gina.
While I was reading this, it reminded me of something Marilyn C. McEntyre wrote. It’s a long quote but it’ all in the same spirit:

“Many on the Christian Right are fond of posing the question WWJD?– What would Jesus do? I’d like to remind them what Jesus DID do: He cared for the poor. He did not condemn the woman caught in adultery. He prayed alone. He commanded us to love our enemies. He preached peace. He ate, drank, and lived with ‘tax collectors and sinners’ — the lowlifes and outcasts of his day, while reserving his condemnation for the religious leaders who, from a place of privilege, imposed their legalism and literalism on the people they were responsible for leading. He told his disciples not to oppose the healing work of those outside the ranks of his followers. And again and again he reminded us to care for the poor. (That moral issue gets more air time than any other in the gospels: 1 verse in 9.) … Whatever Jesus would do, given what he did do … I don’t think it looks much like what the insulated, self-congratulatory Fox News fans on the ‘Christian Right’ are doing.” (Marilyn Chandler McEntyre)


i love LOVE that quote!! thank yuo so much for posting it here ~ it’s perfect!! (and, now i must confess, with it being in the news regarding Jesus being married, all day today i keep thinking WIJWM…i’m a dork! lol)


If you’re a “dork” then you must be of the “cool dork” kind ;)

PS. I’m an asshole but I always try to be of the cool asshole kind – so I guess we’re sort of okay…. as long as no overly perfect people are coming here and spit judgments like a loose cannon.

By the way John 8:1-11 is my absolute top favorite bible passage now. If one would ask my fave bible verse 3 years ago I would still have said Ps.42:1,2 (I couldn’t think of a greater verse back then). But since that time my needs changed, I had to focus on forgiveness (I mean, finding it, after a horrible experience with my best friend) an I must say that story in John 8 really became something like my guide though all of this.

By the way that particular story has been identified by professional text critics as a latter insert in the Gospel of John. But they also agree the story as it is told is typically a story which is completely in line with the life and attitude of Jesus, so it can be said that this was an original story which was added later on in the authoring process that all those early texts have been going through (at that time it didn’t even matter how many authors contributed to a text – they put the name of the major author on top of the manuscript and this person represented the authority of the bundle of stories. I like to know that sort of details – but it doesn’t change a single thing about the value that this story represents for me.

I love your right-from-the-heart style of writing. If that’s what dorky means, then I love dorky ;)


jcmmanuel ~ This is MY ‘space’ ~ you’re welcome here. I do truly try to love/accept ALL, but I have difficulty tolerating ‘judgmental’ types…(and beat you over the head with a Bible types)…

perhaps ‘dorky’ does mean “from the heart” (when it comes from a dorky heart anyway) ~ to me, it just means being me!

so glad you are here!

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