God’s Match

This might be a bit of a ‘soapbox’ blog…

As many of you know, I have been divorced for nearly 3 years.  Last winter, I joined Match.com to “kick start” the dating process.  I met a lot of men and, overall, I would say the experience was positive.  I’ve also dabbled in eHarmony a bit, but am not really a fan.

Several months ago, a friend asked why I hadn’t gone to the Christian singles site.  Fair question since I am a Christian.

I explained that the primary reason I didn’t was because there are a lot of different versions of “Christian” and, just because you are on a Christian singles site, doesn’t guarantee you are going to find an authentic Christian partner.

Call me a heathen, but there are a lot of great single people out there that may not consider themselves Christian yet are more Christ-like than those who do.

Aside from all of that, are their commercials and advertisements.  Their tag line goes something like this: “Find God’s match for you.” I can’t be the only one that is bothered by that.

I’m sorry, but to make such a claim really feels like false advertising to me.  Just because you meet someone on their site doesn’t mean that person is God’s match for you.  I understand what they are trying to accomplish, but plenty of people find “God’s match” for them on other singles sites or a variety of other ways/places.   I’m quite sure that God hasn’t called the Christian Singles place and said, “Hey, I’ve got the secret algorithm for you!  Make sure to put my stamp of approval on all of your matches.”

To me, their use of the name of God to lure people to use their service is equivalent to taking the Lord’s name in vain.

Maybe I’m being critical (or maybe I just need a date) but I believe as a society, we need to be mindful of those making claims in the name of God (or Jesus).

Pray for discernment, friends.  Pray for the Truth.  Pray for guidance.

Don’t just look for God’s “stamp of approval” ~ ASK HIM FOR IT!

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You are so right about the many different versions of “Christian”. That covers a very broad realm of religions that can vary in beliefs from a little to a lot. Certainly leaves a lot to sort through when looking for a partner.

I agree with the false advertising also. God is already everywhere, so it leads us to think that may be the only place to find God’s match. We really don’t need to “go someplace” or be any special place for that!

Also agree we need to pray for discernment, Truth and guidance, and that our eyes/understanding be opened to see/realize that God’s “stamp of approval” is alive and well within our hearts…

Great thoughts to think about… loved it! and thank you!!


i always appreciate your thoughts and input ~ thank you!! :) (and thanks for reading my vent/soapbox) ((love you))


I think most of those sites are more trouble than they are worth. it dont help living in satanta America either because there’s not many prospects close to here that I find interest in. Another problem I have is dumping money into them one or two at a time with no results for a long time just seems makes the disperity of it seem worse. Ive come to the point that if by dumb luck or Gods will, which ever happens first ,I find one just living my life I’m good with that and if not I’m good with that to. I figure Jesus can come up with a reason to have two people in the right spot at the same time if he so desires and all he has to do is speak the word. Maybe I’m burnt out on relationships or just beyond wanting one idk but it is what it is.. maybe I’m off my rocker lol

your friend James Young


James, you probably get a little ‘more for your money’ from the match sites when there is more population in the area. i felt Match was a good deal, but eHarmony, on the other hand, can’t even find a match for me and are asking for money…ummm, no… LOL Hang in there, friend. At least we can encourage and cheer each other on! ((hugs)) btw: love your email addy!

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